The 9 Biggest Myths About Open Marriage
Three years into my marriage my husband and I decided to try something new – opening our marriage. It wasn’t something I’d ever considered before. I grew up thinking that I would meet a man, fall madly in love, marry him and live happily and monogamously ever after....
6 toxic relationship habits that people think are normal.
There’s no class in high school on how to not be a shitty boyfriend or girlfriend. Sure, they teach us the biology of sex, the legality of marriage, and maybe we read a few obscure love stories from the 19th century on how not to be. But when it comes down to actually...
Nonmonogamy for Men: The Big Picture
This guide was originally put together as a handout for a class on nonmonogamy aimed at men. Before finishing it, I decided to switch to a “tips” format instead, so I am publishing the portion that was finished, which covers the high-level conceptual stuff but does...
‘My Husband And I Have An Open Marriage’
I was 17 when my sexual education began. “You are responsible for your own orgasm,” my boyfriend told me. He was the guy I lost my virginity to, the guy I had my first orgasm with, and the guy whose words would one day become my mantra: I am responsible for my own...
5 Ways Non-Monogamy Can Strengthen A Relationship, If You’re Looking To Explore Something New
Whether you're monogamous, polyamorous, or somewhere in the vast chasm between, there's a niche on the relationship spectrum to suit your needs. Although cutting edge culture assures us that there's no wrong way to have a relationship, one-on-one coupling is still the...
I went undercover on Ashley Madison to find out why women cheat
"Honey, I have to join Ashley Madison.” So began the pitch I gave my wife to let me join the marrieds-looking-for-affairs website, AshleyMadison.com. It would be part of my research into women who cheat, why infidelity is increasing, and what can be done to possibly...
Open Relationships and the exclusivity slider
Comedienne Rosie Wilby tours a one-woman show titled, Is Monogamy Dead?As background research for the show, she conducted an anonymous online survey, “asking what behaviors would be considered infidelity. Seventy-three out of 100 respondents thought that falling in...
CNN Money: Silicon Valley creatives are going poly, life-hacking love
Miju Han lives in the Bay Area, works as a product manager and shares a charming apartment with her fiancé. Here's what makes her love story a bit different: She's also in three other relationships. In addition to her fiancé, Han has been seeing a woman for two years...
New study: How many Americans want poly relationships?
How many polyfolks are there? News media always ask, and no one really knows. My indirect method suggests it's roughly 3 million Americans, regardless of whether they use the word "polyamory." This is fairly consistent with surveys that ask people if they are in...
How Do You Maintain Desire in a Long-Term Relationship? Group Sex.
Earlier this week we asked you, readers, to write in telling us how you maintain desire in a long-term relationship. We wanted solutions you may have found to the problem of monogamy, experiments that have failed, and perhaps a defense of sexual fidelity itself. Many...
Why even happily married people have affairs
We would all like to believe that affairs are the refuge of the discontented, that only people in unhappy marriages cheat. But “happy,” it turns out, is not a sufficient antidote to affair. We may be in a golden age of marriage, when elites at least are more likely to...
My sweet threesome
Meeting Jane and her boyfriend at this Liberty Village pub took bravery and open-mindedness I wasn’t even aware I possessed. I steadied myself in the entranceway, forcing myself to take slow, deep breaths. Adrenaline shakes aren’t a common occurrence for me before a...
